Friday, July 07, 2017

Book Review: Feel, Deal & Heal by Nirmal Yadav

Introduction
  • ISBN: 978-81-7599-4454
  • Genre: Non-Fiction/Self Help
  • Publishers: Fingerprint Publishing
  • Price: Rs. 250/-  ( I got the book for review from the publisher)

‘Ignore the Heart and Listen to Your Mind’ is the popular belief. Easier said than done!

Man is a social and emotional creature. Be it the professional or the personal sphere, emotions are the driving force behind all our thinking, behavior and actions.

The problem is that we are the product of a dysfunctional society that teaches us to be ashamed and afraid of our feelings and trains us to suppress not express.

Emotions that are not felt and dealt with, use a lot of our vital energy and create a sea of unhappiness in our lives. The more we ignore and run away from them, the bigger they get and take us further away from happiness. In fact, our happiness quotient depends on how well we understand our emotions and how effectively we deal with them. Not being afraid of our feelings and taking responsibility for them is the first step towards happiness. The body and the psyche are major concerns while dealing with the situation. The clearer we are about why we are feeling the way we are feeling, the happier and healthier we will be—both physically and mentally.

This book will help Feel, Deal and Heal your mind, your heart and your feelings and show you how to learn to be happy!!

Behind the Book


Source: Goodreads.com
About the Author
Daughter of a newspaper publisher, life comes full circle for author Nirmal Yadav as her book goes into print.
Born in a small town of Haryana, Nirmal married a soldier at the age of twenty-one and signed up for three decades of a nomadic life—living, learning and unlearning, all around the country, eventually with two kids in tow. While her husband led a regiment, she chose to lead a classroom and spent many years teaching.

Finding herself in the predicament of no longer anchoring her family’s life, her children having grown up and gone, she took a courageous leap towards a new career. She trained as a psychotherapist and rediscovered herself while helping others in turmoil.

Nirmal has spent a good part of her life working at various social service organizations.

Me thinks

If you have been a regular reader of my blog you would have noticed that I have a special affection towards non-fiction. It has always attracted me more than fiction. My simple argument for this was, "Fiction remains the same every time you read it. It's newness is only one read old. While a non fiction has something new to offer every time you read." Over the years my this belief has continued to grow stronger. 

Coming to this book on self help, I was impressed with the title but somehow the cover wasn't upto the mark. I feel it could have been more intricate and suitable to the over all theme of the book. The book is divided into three parts, each with detailed examples and solutions.I like the way the author has maintained a simple language all throughout the book, making it a light read. While writing on such topics which can be useful across age groups, this is very important. I loved the way it was mentioned that we all have a mental checklist in mind about things that will make us happy and anything that is going against that list results in unhappiness. It is so true, I realized that despite reading such material for so long I still do many things wrong and am far away from being close to implementing the knowledge in real life. 

The best thing about the book has to be the way it deals with real life issues we have all around right now, rather than talking about it in generic manner. From handling teenagers, to becoming parents and dealing with kids, this book talks about it all. Though if you are someone like me who reads self help books very often you might not find anything new in it. But still, the book is interesting in the way it has been presented.

I would recommend this book to one and all, purely for the delicacy in handling the sensitive issue of living rather than just existing.

Foodie Verdict

This book is like sev khamani - cruchy, crispy, sweet, tangym spicy - all merged into one delicious snack!

Source: RumourNews