To begin the new year today on my blog I have a very dear friend Ghanchakkar who blogs at Precariousness , doing a guest post. Sometimes in life you meet few people who make you see YOU in a different light altogether. They come with a message and few lessons after which you are never ever the same. I can say I am lucky to have met someone like that in him. We met through our respective blogs and today we share a beautiful friendship which has proudly stood the test of time. Without taking too much of his space I will let him do the talking now as I will leave talking about our friendship for another post :
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“You don’t know with what I am going through right now? “
You might have heard or would have said this statement quite a few times by now for sure. But when you might have looked up at the problem and have started laughing (within inside) or would have started worrying more about that.
Worrying: Worrying is genuine. Whenever you listen to others sorrow, this is genuine expression or feeling you have. But why you have a worry? Is it really an unsolvable problem? If it would be solvable then it won’t be a problem at all as you would know a solution to it a priori. Problem becomes problem when it looks unsolvable from far but when you reach nearer it looks really solvable. That’s why I like some famous saying which meant the following (I don’t remember the exact saying): Keep your mind calm whether it is happiness and sadness.
Laughing: Laughing because you might have suffered or seen this problem before and you know that the other person is making mountain out of a molehill. Or you know that there are several other big problems exist out there and this problem is nothing in comparison to that. To me the latter one is always seems like a reasonable argument to make someone feel better and myself as well. I remember one Gandhi’s Talisman from our NCERT books:
“I will give you a talisman. Whenever you are in doubt, or when the self becomes too much with you, apply the following test. Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen, and ask yourself, if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. Will he [she] gain anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life and destiny? In other words, will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self melt away."
I don’t know how many of us remember it but it certainly works. And will work for every problem you (other person) will face at any point of your life. You (s/he) can ask now to life “Try me out “. Or as per me the best solution is to walk down the lane. When you will see the people around you, sleeping on streets, eating food whatever left over is there, people fighting for water, doing their best earn a single penny, etc.
So from next time don’t say to anyone:
You don’t know with what I am going through right now?
You don't know that I am going through nothing right now in comparison to others.